I again started reading the book, "Stress Fractures - Biblical Splints for Everyday Pressures" by Charles R Swindoll. There was one particular chapter in which he gave "A Special Word for Women", since many women not only face the regular stresses of life that come with family, motherhood, etc; but also are faced with different perspectives on the roles and value of women based on conflicting views from the world, in church, etc. In the chapter, it was emphasized that women of God in the Scriptures were balanced in areas of knowledge of God and the Word, are valuable and gifted and not overly dependent on anyone, and have the Lord as their strength and refuge.
From this, I can see how God has developed me in these areas through my singleness. In learning fully that His Grace is sufficient for me, I have developed my knowledge of Him and of Scripture, am independent, and have my strength in the LORD.
Interestingly, this has also helped me to gain some insight into some of the issues I've had to deal with. I knew that I had to learn to communicate better; and what I've come to realize is that, I cannot assume that others have developed the same abilities and dependence on God that I have. That there are some who are not equipped to deal with the stresses in their lives. And instead of just letting them fend for themselves even when they have approached it the wrong way, taken advantage of others, and shown lack of character; it might help to clearly communicate what can be done instead and to offer suggestions. Also, it is important to communicate the limits and the issues, so that there is no misunderstanding. I don't think it helps to be too easy on them, while hiding what I think they may not want to hear; since, in the long run, it is better for them to know the truth; than to not know what really happened. Communicating the truth clearly in a loving manner, even if it may hurt, is important.
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