Hole Perspective

My perspective on the relationship "hole" has shifted.    Since God created us for relationships, I held to the view that we feel the emptiness of the "hole" when it is missing in our lives.   While it is true that God created us for relationships, yet, relationship with Him is sufficient.   It can be found in Scripture that there is no marriage in heaven (e.g. Luke 20:34-35); so, I take that to mean this paticular relationship would not be considered essential.   The primary relationship is the one with God; and the secondary is the one with others.

With no reservations, I say that God's love for me far outweighs any human love I could ever receive.    And, there is nothing on earth I would desire more than HIM. 

So, why do we feel a "hole" when we are not in the kind of relationship that leads to marriage?  That relationship should not be categorized as a "hole" when it is missing; but, rather as an added blessing when it is present.  It is like the other things in life that we want or desire.   Though, it would be nice to have; we are not incomplete without it.

However, the part of feeling the "hole" may be related to the need that we all have to feel loved.   We know that God loves us; but, it's all HIM.  He loves us and was willing to die for us even when we were unlovable.  I have done nothing to deserve that love.

So, we desire to have someone love us and to have that special relationship.   Yet, I think the correct perspective is that God's Love is sufficient; and we can also be loved through our relationships with others. That one special relationship is desirable but it is not essential; and thus should not be viewed as an empty hole that needs to be filled in order to be whole.